015 - Explaining the self help industry, what you don’t travel without and how much of your neighbour’s lawn should you mow?

• Richard simplifies the self-help industry down to one powerful principle.
• Travel rituals revealed: Richard always packs tea bags while Ben shares the background behind why he always buys jelly beans upon landing
• Listener feedback re-raises the great snorkel debate and airplane window seat etiquette is dissected.
• The conundrum unpacks how much of your neighbour's lawn you should mow.

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Transcript

Welcome to Singapore Listeners

Speaker 1 0:12

Welcome to the Bravo Charlie Club podcast , making you 12 and a half minutes more awesome each week . He's Ben . I'm Richard . Let's go , ben . How are you this week ?

Speaker 2 0:23

I'm well , mate , and I'm here to welcome listeners from Singapore . As you know , I'm dedicated to welcoming new listener countries as they join us . So that would be hello , salam and ni hao . It's a melting pot of multicultural goodness in Singapore mate , it is indeed I love Singapore .

Speaker 1 0:44

Welcome Singapore , yes , and I think going with only three welcomes is probably not enough . Multicultural goodness in in singapore .

Speaker 2 0:45

So there's indeed , I love singapore , welcome singapore , yes , and I think going with only three welcomes is probably not enough . But , um , yeah , that that's it , we're in , we're in . Hey , um , my linkedin feed and I mainly spend my time on social media , and linkedin , um is all about self-help industry right now , and there's just so many ways to cut it up , and I just wondered is there a way that we can just filter it down to something very simple , because there's too many feel-good ?

Speaker 1 1:13

quotes . There's lots of feel-good quotes , isn't there ? Really , yeah .

Speaker 2 1:18

Can you help me out ? I just want one thing I can write on the wall and just move away .

Speaker 1 1:23

So I saw one recently which I did write down . I kind of scrapbook everything into Apple Notes .

Speaker 2 1:29

You're the one .

Speaker 1 1:31

Yeah , that's me .

ravel Essentials: Tea Bags and Jelly Beans

Speaker 1 1:33

I saw this come through in Uncle Sean's five tweets . Go , uncle Sean . It said do what makes mornings exciting and nights peaceful I love it , I love it . Yeah , I think it . Um , the credit was to shane parish , because , uh , uncle sean always credits his sources , but uh , I think it just .

Speaker 2 1:59

Yeah , just just captured something nice yep , do what makes mornings exciting , so you're looking forward to getting out of bed .

Speaker 1 2:06

Yep exactly , and nights peaceful .

Speaker 2 2:07

Do what makes nights peaceful , so that you can relax at the end of a day and get off to sleep ready for the next day . Get up to do it all over again . Yeah , that's it , so you've literally solved self-help industry in one sentence .

Speaker 1 2:23

There is some other . You've got to get to that state .

Speaker 2 2:25

I guess You're not going to make a billion dollars from that , but I think you're probably going to be a much happier person than some of the stuff I've seen being posted .

Speaker 2 2:35

Yeah , so , I've got an example of that . I've got a friend who was born on April 1st , which around the world is referred to as April Fool's Day , as you would know . She's renamed it April Genius Day and she does not even hear April Fool's Day . It just doesn't even occur to her that that's a thing . She just thinks that April 1st is April Genius Day . It's her birthday and it's her mindset .

Speaker 1 2:58

I love it .

Speaker 2 3:00

I reckon that just on her birthday that would make her excited in the morning and peaceful at night . I love it . Yeah , it's just a change in mindset , isn't it Very ?

Speaker 1 3:10

nice , Very nice yeah easy .

Speaker 2 3:12

Hey , tell me something . You traveled a lot . We spoke about your Alice Springs trip last week . What do you buy every time you land ? What's the one thing that you just have to go past a shop and pick up ? There's always something .

Speaker 1 3:29

There is always something . But even before I check into the hotel I usually take tea bags from home , because hotel tea is often terrible and you don't want to buy 100 tea bags while you're out because then you're just carrying 90 tea bags around for a whole trip . So I take a Ziploc bag , I'll throw a handful in let's call it 10 tea bags , maybe for a three-day trip . But I always get milk because they give you those little UHT milk things in hotel rooms . But you'll get four of them and that's one cup of tea .

Speaker 1 4:11

And it doesn't taste that great either , and it's . Uht milk and it's UHT milk yeah , so I'll get a 600ml or a one-litre milk carton and yeah , check in , pop it in the fridge .

Speaker 2 4:24

So hang on . You come from the airport . You're not saying take me to the hotel . You're saying take me to 7-Eleven .

Speaker 1 4:32

Well , if you're in Melbourne , there's a 7-Eleven every 50 metres .

Speaker 2 4:37

Yeah .

Speaker 1 4:38

So it's usually not that challenging . Yeah , how about yourself , Ben ?

Speaker 2 4:44

Jelly beans , jelly beans yeah , I always land and buy jelly beans and I have to send my wife a photo of them .

Speaker 1 4:50

Have you got a type of jelly bean ? Do you go jelly belly or do you just go standard glucose jelly bean or like where do you stand ?

Speaker 2 4:56

honestly , it's whatever's on sale normally . To be honest , um , being diabetic , you eat enough of them to not be too too attached to it . Um , if I'm really on my game , I actually carry skittles ah , yeah , okay my go-to because they come in a pre-packed 15 gram um . You know , satchel , yeah , sachet , um , but I have to send a photo of them to my wife .

Speaker 2 5:22

To prove that you've purchased A that I've landed safely and B that I've got hypoglycemic backup . The reason for that is my insulin pump used to have a function where it would Bluetooth to your phone and then you could add a care partner and it would send the status to that . And obviously I had Tanya on there while I was doing the beta test . Oh yes , and one day I had a hypo and I was in Melbourne and she had to geolocate me to find out which hotel I was in and then rang the hotel , asked them to take me up a pineapple juice or orange juice , and I got a knock on the door . When you're a hypoglossian , you're basically not very conscious . No , you're conscious , unless it's going really bad , but you're not aware . And I still got this knock on the door and this guy standing there with a pineapple juice

istener Feedback on Snorkels and Flights

Speaker 2 6:22

saying here your wife says to drink this , and I was like what my wife's here , I don't know what .

Speaker 2 6:30

But it was all because of this technology where she was looking at my blood glucose levels and going , that's fascinating .

Speaker 1 6:36

So was it right ? She was right , yeah .

Speaker 2 6:39

I was in all sorts of strife . Yeah , possibly saved my life . Wow , that's full on .

Speaker 1 6:46

That's kind of awesome .

Speaker 2 6:47

Interestingly , I got charged for the pineapple juice , of course , of course .

Speaker 1 6:52

That'll be $17 , sir .

Speaker 2 6:55

Yeah , plus service charge . But look , honestly , that's sort of become a thing for us . So I have to tell her I've landed safely and um , and then I've got appropriate backup so it works well and um , haven't had a , haven't had a miss since I've certainly had hypos since , but I've always been prepared so yeah yeah , there you go there you go um . Hey , any listener feedback coming through the door ?

Speaker 1 7:22

we did have some listener feedback this week . Ah Ben may have been slightly directed at you with Ari your position on snorkels in pools .

Speaker 2 7:34

Snorkels . This is a gift I keep on giving .

Speaker 1 7:37

It's still going .

Speaker 2 7:39

Hold on , this is the bed .

Speaker 1 7:41

Yeah , he mentioned that .

Speaker 2 7:55

if you were truly swimming as if training for escaping a burning boat . He asked if you swim without goggles and casual clothes . Oh , fair call , fair call , yeah , yeah , okay . So the call out was I was unhappy with people using snorkels in pools and I said at the time that I'd like to think I was training as if I was swimming away from a burning boat . Yeah , okay , hopefully , ah , we can put this to bed . But you're right , I do swim with goggles and I do wear normal swimming attire , which , I would argue , you could probably strip down to if you're on a boat anyway . But yeah , I'll take it on . Yep , fair call , fair call , I've got one here . El actually asked if you were a window man , richard .

Speaker 1 8:37

I am , I am all the way .

Speaker 2 8:38

Yep , and I'm the aisle man all the way . Who has jurisdiction on the blind in the window ?

Speaker 1 8:45

Well as the window man , I'd say the window man , yeah , of course . Well , I think you do . The window man's got control . The aisle man can put a request in .

Speaker 2 8:55

Yeah , how is the request normally met ? Like if someone leans over , they have to pass some sort of test first .

Speaker 1 9:05

I don't think I've actually ever had anyone ask me to close or open the blind , apart from the stewardess . Yeah , of course . It's like you know we're coming in for landing . Please put your blinds up . What you know ? Noise-cancelling headphones are great , so yeah .

Speaker 2 9:23

So there's the ranking . Right there , it's the aisle man at the bottom , the window man in the middle and the stewardess at the top . Yes , yeah , got it , and heaven forbid , we see the pilot .

Speaker 1 9:36

Yeah , yeah , that's not . Oh good , that's bad , that's not good yeah , All right , that's good .

Speaker 2 9:43

Thanks for the feedback and if you do want to leave feedback , drop us an email hello at bravocharlieclub . Or join us in the Inner Sanctum the link will be in the show notes or just respond to comments . I noticed at Spotify you can actually leave a comment .

Speaker 1 9:59

I know We've started to get a few come in . It's exciting .

Speaker 2 10:02

I've responded to a couple , which is fun . Got a beautiful comment actually about our piece on eulogies . A gentleman wrote a very heartfelt message about the number of eulogies he'd actually been had to give and how it was an honour and a gift to remember a person . Really appreciated that feedback from listener

The Neighbour's Lawn Mowing Conundrum

Speaker 2 10:22

MR . Hey mate , the conundrum of the week what is the appropriate amount of your neighbour's lawn that you can mow on the sidewalk ? The ?

Speaker 2 10:35

appropriate amount yeah , so you know . You know , when you got that adjoining , like do you go all the way across to their driveway or do you have to leave a neat line like what's the what's the etiquette ?

Speaker 1 10:47

what do you follow ? Well , I think it's a bit like you know . I think it's a bit like the whole this week , this monday , next monday kind of thing where it depends on the day you're kicking off from as to whether you use the this or the next . So with the , if you've only got a couple of meters between , I would say , your boundary in their driveway , you just mow up to the driveway because it looks better . But if you've got 15 meters there , you know I'm probably not going to mow 15 meters . I mean , maybe I would . Maybe I would if I'm out there already , if they brought you a beer .

Speaker 1 11:23

If they brought me a beer . Yeah , I could be bribed . I'm easily bribable .

Speaker 2 11:27

Yeah , you've proven that across the journey . Be bribed I'm easily bribable .

Speaker 2 11:30

Yeah , you've proven that across the journey , so , uh , so I think , yeah , it's case , case specific it's interesting that you mentioned that , because our home , the the part to the my neighbor's lawn , is about three or four meters , and so it's a no brainer for me . Yeah , you just mow it , just mow that little bit , and then if it took me more than 90 seconds , I'd be going really slow . Yeah , um , but our front section is 15 meters , like it's 12 or 15 meters , like what what you said and my neighbor mows it , so he's mowing this three or four meters section and he's a champion , like , so I just take him a bottle of wine from time to time .

Speaker 2 12:07

I don't even know if he drinks wine , but um , it's always gone . Yeah , um , but um , the nicest person I've probably never spoken to , yeah yeah he just always wants to mow my lawn . So yeah , it's an interesting one . So we haven't really really solved it , though we've just . It's going to come down to the person and to your point . It comes down to the day or how you're feeling .

Speaker 1 12:31

But some amount . I think that there's .

Speaker 2 12:34

I think you need . I'll probably challenge you on that . I think you need to be consistent . If you mowed it one time and then cut it off the second time , a regular neighbor would be like hang on , what have I done ? Did I not put the beans out ?

Speaker 1 12:49

What's going on here ? Yeah ?

Speaker 2 12:51

You know , like if you used to give someone a birthday card and then you stopped giving them a birthday card . Like you know , it's a tough one . Like I told everyone on my 50th birthday that I was forgetting everyone's birthdays . I was no longer remembering them because that was a line in the sand . I was very good at remembering birthdays up until a certain point and I was like , nah , I've turned old .

Speaker 1 13:13

You've got processes and systems . Surely they're all in your calendar . You've got a birthday's calendar .

Speaker 2 13:17

I know you do I deleted them ?

Speaker 1 13:20

Oh , did you there , you go .

Speaker 2 13:21

Most of them , All the people I told I was forgetting birthdays I deleted theirs . We've moved away from the lawn part , but it's an interesting . That'll bring me on to probably another conundrum , which is how late is too late

Next Week's Preview and Sign-Off

Speaker 2 13:40

to mow the lawn Something to unpack next week .

Speaker 2 13:44

Yeah , we'll touch on that one . We'll touch on that one . Well , that's it , richard . We've listened to this . We've been BCC'd on our week In next week's show . What we are actually asking is what exactly is a money can't buy experience ? Um , yeah , I'd love to hear your thoughts on that one . See you next week . Bravo , charlie , club out and that's the pod .